- Ask~ Exactly that. I Ask the horse o do it first.
- Tell~ This time I will TELL him to do it if asking doesn't work.
- Demand~ No excuses, he's doing it.
I like this because it really gives the horse three chances to do as you ask. Now why is this so important? Why is necessary that I make ButterCup work when she doesn't feel like it? Or Discipline her when she being "silly." Because I'm Alpha Mare and horses aren't lap dogs.
Here's a classic example. A friend of mine bought her husband a horse. A Little 2 yr old because he wanted to help train his own horse. Now though he's having some trouble because his sweet baby horsie is so super kyooooot that if she's naughty or sassy, oh well, it's Kyooooot. Remember? Kyooot. God Damn GAG ME! There is nothing kyoot about a half ton animal pushing a 160lb man around. But he doesn't want wittle precious to not like him if he has to "punish" her. *sigh* So enter bad cop.
Now his wife gets after little sassy pants 2 yr old in the CORRECT WAYS. Sassy pants will round pen nicely, accept the bit, pick up her feet, stand quiet, you name it. BUT, only for the "bad cop."
Why? Because horses need and actually appreciate a herd leader(you). They know that "Oh shit! I can't get away with that crap with her!" So it actually makes for a stronger bond and a greater appreciation for the rewards received from bad cop. Well as it turns out the "Good Cop" husband is NOW getting frustated because little kyoot 2 yr old won't listen to him anymore.
Ahhh I know his wife had never been happier when she "HA!! Told you so!" But anyway. So now it's retraining the Good Cop that it's OK to TRAIN and teach and school your horse. Your horse will find a new and better RESPECT for you. And for that you will have a better mannered horse and a better relationship with your horse. Horses are smart, smart little devils in disguise. If you give up and don't make them do what your asking then you are in BIG, BIG Trouble!
It's never OK to hurt a horse during training and schooling. It's not OK to "DOMINATE" them big man cowboy style. But it is OK to teach, guide and school them appropriately which will be much better for the both of you in the long run.